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4 Amazing Apps That Can Help You In Early Sobriety

4 Types Of Apps You Can Use To Support Your Sober Journey

The number of available mobile apps present today is huge. Depending on how we use them, they can be just a distraction or they can actually be a helpful sober tool. If you’re just starting out on your sober journey and you are looking for some addiction recovery tips, or you’re a sober curious person (or maybe you’re still a drinker, but you’re researching and considering sobriety), this post is for you! Learning how to navigate an alcohol-free lifestyle in a booze-driven society can be challenging, to say the least.

There is a lot of things I want to say about sobriety, like what you’re going to be missing out on, or how it can fundamentally change your life – and there are already a couple of posts I wrote on these topics, so I definitely recommend you take a look. Here I want to talk about how you can use technology (precisely, apps on your phone) to help me you out on your quest to live a more mindful and intentional life. These are just my own views and opinions and this is not a paid ad, I just genuinely find these apps very helpful.

Top Apps To Boost Your Recovery:

Guided meditation apps

Where to even start with all the benefits of practicing mindfulness meditation! It is a great tool to help you stay grounded and be more present. To stop worrying about the future (or to learn how to worry less), or dreading over the past. It is a powerful way to deal with cravings and anxiety. And thanks to technology, there is a great deal of guided meditation apps on your phone for you to choose from. I personally tried a couple of them, and all of them got the job done.

What is a good meditation app?

Waking up – By far my absolute favourite app for guided meditations. It is created by Sam Harris, and it offers you a 28 day introduction into meditations, where the idea is for you to learn the basics of meditating and mindfulness. After that, you can continue with the apps daily meditations (which are updated daily 🙂 ). Beside that, the app offers a theory section, where you can learn more about the theory and general ideas of the meditation practice.

Calm – My second favourite app, and probably the most famous one is Calm. Beside being a meditation app, Calm also offers sleep stories (which I adore and listen to almost every night), breathing exercises, music, and more. You can also enter your mood each day and that way track your moods. You can even choose meditations that focus on certain aspects of life – for example, you can choose a series of meditations focusing on anxiety, performance, relationships, etc. It really is a multipurpose app.

Journaling apps

In those early stages you can sometimes lose perspective, feel down, and question your decision. All of these are normal, but remind yourself of why you made your decision. Remind yourself of all the things that bring you joy, and what you are grateful for. I keep a gratitude journal where I write in every morning 3 things I am grateful for. And yes, there is an app for that as well 🙂 There’s a bunch of them also, and you can find the one that best suits your needs.

The best journaling app?

Since I have only tried one journaling app, I can tell you about that one, and that’s pretty much it. But not to leave you hanging, here is a great list of journaling apps you might want to try out – go give it a look. As for me, I stuck with the one I tried first, the Five Minute Journal app, it is super easy to use, and takes very little time.

Fitness apps

I started my sober journey when the corona lockdown was active, so physical activity was a bit challenged. I first used a fitness app with a variety of workouts, and later on I switched to a yoga app, and I fell in love with it. Whichever it is, choose the one you’ll enjoy the most. This way, workout can become your new and healthy way of unwinding and relaxing. Evening glass of wine can become a vinyasa flow, or a cardio workout – your body will be grateful for this change, and you’ll love your decision in the morning!

What is the best fitness and exercise app?

There are so many different workout apps today, that I am positive you will find the one that fits almost all of your needs. I have tried so many fitness apps I stopped counting, but two always come to mind when I think of functionality and simplicity:

Down Dog – to be fair, I am a yoga enthusiast so I am definitely bias here, but this app is just amazing, and my top pick for a yoga app. It offers numerous ways to modify and customize your yoga practice so it can fit your needs almost perfectly. A bonus is that beside the voice that guides your practice, the app also has built in music playing in the background – and the tone follows your flow which is just brilliant.

FitOn – if yoga is not your thing, that is perfectly fine, because (for me) FitOn is the next best thing. It offers a bunch of filmed workouts by talented trainers that will push you further, and the best thing – the workout part of the app is completely free! They offer unlimited free access to the various types workouts from celebrity trainers.

Social media if used wisely

The “if used wisely” part cannot be stressed enough! Before, I had all of your usual social media apps, and it was not doing me a favour. I followed people that gave me bad body image, made me feel less, etc. I completely turned my social media apps around, started following only content that inspired me and made me feel good. To be precise, if you’re in early sobriety, and especially if you’re like me and you don’t really know a lot of (or none) sober people, the online sober community, in my experience, on both Instagram and Twitter are absolutely amazing. Their messages, comfort they offer, even their cheering on, is just astonishing. I honestly made friends with people I’ve never even met in person and I can say I care for them a lot. Self-promo ALERT – If you’re struggling where to start – here are my accounts, I am happy to connect with you and offer you support on your alcohol free journey!


Early sobriety can be challenging. Always remember that addiction recovery is not linear, and we all have different paths. The most important thing to remember is to be kind to yourself. Healing takes time, and if you are considering an alcohol free lifestyle, you are already doing better than you were before.

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How To Deal With Invasive And Nosy People

4 Ways To Handle Intrusive People | Setting Your Boundaries Today

Who are we talking about here? They are those who ask inappropriate and private questions like “why don’t you have kids” or “when will you get married”. Those who give unsolicited advice and opinions. The ones you’ll catch gossiping every chance they get. Whether it is a nosy relative, an overly curious colleague asking a way to personal question, or a friend crossing boundaries and invading your privacy, dealing with difficult situations and reacting properly to nosy people takes time and practice. Don’t worry though, because if you are looking for tips on dealing with nosy people with intrusive questions, you are in the right place

I had my fair share of those interactions, and I like to think I’ve found a way to deal with those situations. Our reactions and how we handle them also depend on what the relationship with that person means to us, and if we wish to keep it.

Depending on the nature of the relationship, here is how you can respond to invasive behaviour:

1. Understand they are using that behavior to hide their own insecurities

This first step is for you to understand it was probably never that much about you, as it was a tool for them to deflect, focus on others instead of their own insecurities. I am not making excuses for them and that doesn’t make that behaviour okay, it is simply what I use to have a less emotional reaction and to, frankly, care less. It actually works, and that’s the whole point here – how you react and feel when encountered with those situations and people.

2. With kindness make them realize their intrusive actions

This one seems almost controversial, as the social norm isn’t often to be direct. But some people may not even be aware of their intrusive behaviour, and if you gently communicate your discomfort, you can clearly state your boundaries. If this seems too direct for you, you can start by practicing indirect ways of letting them know they are being intrusive (through a joke, or by letting them know that was a strange thing to ask).

3. Practice generic answers to common questions

This one is for those mainstream, but very personal questions some people just feel entitled to ask you, like “why don’t you have kids yet”, etc. If those questions are asked by people you barely know simply practice a generic, non-revealing answer, or even use deflection (and change the subject if you find a way), and avoid the question entirely.

4. Let them know how you feel

I practice this reaction when the questions are too personal, but the person asking it is someone close. For example, when my mom asks some of the above questions, I let her know how that makes me feel. I do this when I wish to maintain the relationship with the person asking it, and I feel comfortable enough to tell her how that makes me feel. They usually get it, and it helps our relationship.

Handling Difficult Situations With Nosy People

There are a lot more ways to deal with these situations, and you probably have some of your own. If you’d like to find out more ways of dealing with these situations, I did some digging and here are my top picks:

Please let me know if you found some of these ways useful, and if you’d add something else to the list. Also, you can check out the 5 steps I took to awaken the badass within, empowerment is always a good thing.

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6 Amazing Ideas for Decluttering Your Mind, Body and Soul, A Holistic Approach To Spring Cleaning - a girl on a field

Spring Cleaning Tips in 2021 | How To Declutter Your Life

6 Amazing Ideas for Decluttering Your Mind, Body and Soul | A Holistic Approach To Spring Cleaning

Warmer weather and nature coming back to life awakens something in us too. A lot of us start preparing for spring cleaning our home, making little checklists and what not. We jump to organizing our closets, detailed home cleaning, etc. What if this year we did it differently? Last 12 months have been somewhat different, the pandemic and several lockdowns put us in situations most of us were not prepared for. So after such a strange year, why not approach decluttering and cleaning in a different way too? Instead of just reorganizing the closet, getting rid of the stuff we don’t need, how about we do the same for ourselves, our mind, body, and soul? How about we get rid of what our body doesn’t need, reorganize the content that our mind is subject to, and freshen up our soul? Most of us feel at least a bit better after a little bit of home reorganizing, imagine how we could feel if we did it more holistically? What could be all the wonderful benefits of decluttering your life, reducing the everyday stress, and clearing your mind?

If at this point what I’m saying makes absolutely no sense to you, don’t worry. Here is a list of what can be done to spring clean and declutter your mind, body, and soul (a full on holistic approach). This does not mean you either try everything or nothing at all – check it out and be the judge of what works for you and what doesn’t – that’s the whole point anyways 🙂

6 Ways To Declutter Your Life

How to clear your mind

Positive effects of clearing your mind are numerous. I already talked a lot about how mindfulness meditation can be a great tool in clearing your mind and making you more present. Whether you wish to clear your mind for work, to study, and for better sleep, these tips can help you achieve that.

1. Social media. Examine the content you are exposing yourself to. Unfollow those who bring you down, make you feel bad about yourself. Bring more positivity and healthy messages to your social media feed. Free your mind of unnecessary noise and reorganize the content it is exposed to so it supports your mental well-being in a healthy way.

2. Time away from phone. How many times a day do you reach for your phone, open some app, then later you don’t even remember what it was? All that is just additional noise for your mind. Throughout the day, set a couple of ‘focus’ time periods, where you’ll work, read, or something else you want your full focus on, moving your phone and any other distractions away from you – disconnect so you can reconnect with the work you wish to focus on.

Cleanse your body

3. Nourishing foods. Introduce to your diet more whole foods that fuel, not drain your body and energy. It doesn’t have to be anything extreme and it shouldn’t be forced, just bring more awareness to what you are bringing into your body – the food you eat affects the way you feel, how much energy you have, your sleep, etc. Without any special diets, you can enhance your body’s natural detoxification system, find out here 9 simple ways to rejuvenate your body’s detoxification system.

4. Detoxifying rituals. Teas, essential oils, bath tubs,… It’s your pick! Whichever it is, enjoy while you nourish your body (and soul). Although everyday habits like getting enough sleep, drinking water, eating whole foods, etc. are what really matters, pampering ourselves with these detoxifying rituals can enhance what we’re already doing for the body, and ground us even more. So why not enjoy diffusing some essential oils while relaxing in a warm bubble bath?

How to declutter your soul and nourish your spiritual life

5. Be kind to yourself. Soul detox starts with the way you treat yourself. Cleansing of the soul will be a hard task if you will yourself up with negative talk daily. The first step to declutter your soul is to be aware of how you talk to yourself. Notice the tone, the words you use. When you detect negativity, with pure self-compassion shift your mindset to being kind to yourself. Even to the part that was mean. There is no point other than to love yourself completely and fully. You can even hug yourself – just wrap your arms around you. Show yourself the love and compassion which you give to the others you love.

6. Nature time. The entire nature is slowly waking up, coming to life. Enjoy that process first hand! Take that energy back with you, let it be the fuel for your soul. Enjoy a walk in the park, have a picnic, ride your bike. Whatever you prefer, just take in that amazing fresh energy.


Which ones would you choose? What would you also add to the list? Let me know!

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7 Amazing Tips For Creating a Consistent and Daily Self-Care Routine

Developing a Self-Care Plan You Will Actually Stick To | Mind, Body & Soul

When you think of self-care ideas, what is it that first comes to mind? Is it #selfcaresunday, taking long bubble baths and putting on face masks? We reduced self-care practice to one day a week and to activities of pampering our skin and having an excuse to drink wine in a bath tub. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a day devoted to pampering yourself, but self-care is so much more than that. Self-care is about day-to-day tasks and small rituals that together add up to huge improvements to your wellbeing and general health – physical, emotional and spiritual. Self-care is about taking care of your whole self – your body, but also your mental health. It is about finding healthy ways to deal with stress and negative emotions.

Developing a consistent self-care routine isn’t about reaching a destination, rather enjoying the journey. When we don’t take good care of ourselves, it affects all aspects of our lives – we might feel tired, agitated, like we are always running places, lost in our thoughts, unsatisfied with life in general. It might seem hard to set aside time to take care of ourselves each day, but if we don’t, our well-being will eventually suffer.

The beginning of the self-care journey is the hardest, but there is a trick to making it easier. When you incorporate small and effective day-to-day activities into your life, eventually they become a part of your daily routine, a habit, and you simply do them, without giving them much thought (like whether you have time or willpower to do them). They become something you look forward to – your mind, body and soul feel grateful for it. It stops feeling like a luxury and starts to be a necessity – as it truly is. Wondering where to start in self-care? Keep reading then!

The Essential Guide To Practicing Self-Care Daily | Suitable For Beginners

Whether you already have developed a certain daily routine of taking care of yourself, or you are an absolute beginner, here are 7 self-care basics for mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being:

Practice journaling

You can choose your own preferred way of journaling – whether it is a morning gratitude journal (where you write down 3 things you are grateful for every morning), or a reflective journal (every night you write down the things that put a smile on your face that day), or even both.

Consciously being grateful and looking for what brings you joy is an amazing practice of self love. Check out here all the different benefits of praciting journaling.

I use a journaling app that is pretty simple and intuitive, find out here which one is it.

Morning stretch or workout

Before reaching for the phone, start your day with movement. Whether you prefer something with some cardio or just a morning stretch, moving your body when you get up energizes you and sets you up for a better mood throughout the day.

Mindfulness breathing

Mindfulness meditation is my absolute favourite tool in dealing with stress, when feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or when in need of some mind decluttering. Our mind works non-stop and we can often get lost in thought, overwhelmed by emotions those thoughts can bring – and all of this with us barely noticing it. Take a couple of mindful breaths throughout the day. Bring your focus back to the present, on what’s happening right now. Examine how your body feels. When your thoughts take you somewhere else, notice that without judgement, and come back to the present. Notice how you feel after practicing this – I bet you’ll feel better.

Step up your skincare game

Everyday stress and our modern way of living can take a toll on our skin. Nourish it and show it love. It’s not just about your skin looking better, it is about you feeling better by caring for yourself. Wash and clean your face every morning and before bed. Find the skin-care routine that works for you and invest in good skin-care products. Also remember it is not about having a bunch of different products, but the right ones (and applying them in the right order).

Go for a lunchtime walk

Clear your head, get away from the work noise, and boost your energy and concentration throughout the day. This one is mind and body type of self-care, and it is so simple, yet so powerful.

If it is sunny, that is just an additional bonus. You’ll never see me skip a lunchtime walk if it is sunny, it is such an amazing mood booster!

Make time to read

Set aside time for reading each day. It can be just a couple of minutes when you have little time to spare, but stay consistent. As time goes by, you will start to cherish those minutes. Regular reading is an amazing self-improvement technique. Find books that will help you grow and evolve, but also enjoy a simple fiction novel – for the soul. Whatever works for you really.

Have a cup of soothing herbal tea in the evening

I LOVE this one so much. It is a great way to unwind in the evening and get ready for a good night sleep – all you have to be careful of is that you choose a herbal blend that is for relaxing (and not waking up). Whether you drink it curled up with a good book, watching tv, or simply relaxing by the window, you’ll be enjoying some wonderful me-time.


Before There Was Self-Care, There Was Self-Love

Before diving into a self-care routine, the most important thing is to show yourself love and compassion. Embrace self-love, and taking care of yourself comes after that naturally. Be kind to yourself. Take it slow and progress from wherever you are. If some days you forget something or you’re just not in the mood – don’t beat yourself up. Day by day, it’ll come naturally and you will enjoy pampering yourself more and more.

If you struggle with negative self talk and wonder how to change it, this post can be your starting point for understanding how to deal with and respond to those negative inner thoughts.

Let me know what you think of the list – would you add or remove something? Do you find this list helpful? How does your routine so far look? What do you want to work on?

If you enjoyed this read, then you’ll love these 7 tips to help you maintain your health and wellness this summer.

With love,

Common Unicorn

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4 Reasons To Include Yoga In Your Morning Routine

Reasons to practice yoga in the morning

Our lives get so busy that we sometimes forget to stop and take a breath. Whether you have an elaborate morning routine, or no routine at all, a simple yoga stretch with a few mindful breaths to start your day can do wonders. Benefits of practicing yoga every morning are numerous. The beginning is always the trickiest, so be sure you find poses and practices that suit you best first thing in the morning. There are plenty of basic yoga stretches that you can do in the comfort of your own home, so be sure to check them out!

My morning routine was not built in a day. It started with a stressful waking up and running around the apartment to get ready for work, rushing to catch the tram. Step by step, I started to include different elements to start the day off better. How we set the tone for ourselves in the morning really is important for the rest of the day.

A very important element of my morning routine is a 10-20 minute yoga practice. At first, my body found stretching, bending and lengthening first thing in the morning to be challenging. Slowly but surely, my body started to appreciate it, even love it. What did the trick to enjoy the practice itself was how I felt (my body and my mind) after the practice.

4 Awesome Benefits of a Morning Yoga Practice

Starting the day with some me time

Waking up and not immediately rushing to get ready, to do a task, but first taking some time just for myself, my mind and my body. Even when I have a super busy day, especially then, I feel grateful and thank myself for first finding the time for myself.

Having more focus for the day

Doing the practice helps me ground myself, stay present, declutter the mind, and to approach the day with more mindfulness.

Improving posture, strength and flexibility

Physical benefits are also numerous. Yoga can help you improve muscle tone, build core strength. It can make you stronger and more flexible, and your posture can improve. Even within a couple of weeks of regular practice, I started noticing some of these improvements.

Energized body and reduced stress levels

I’m usually really sleepy and tense at the same time first thing in the morning. Yoga helps me with both – softens the muscles, the body, while energizing it at the same time.

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Related topic:

4 Ways to Develop a Spiritual Yoga Practice

In the end, we choose our own time and workout that best serve us – it is all about listening to our own body and what it needs.

Hope you have a great day, namaste!

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How to Use Mindfulness to Cope with Anxiety and Cravings

How I apply what I learned from guided mindfulness meditations to relieve anxiety and deal with cravings

Mindfulness meditation is the process of training your mind to focus, redirect your thoughts, and bring yourself to the present. As my favourite mindfulness meditation guide Sam Harris said: The practice of mindfulness is extraordinarily simple to describe, but it is in no sense easy. If you know nothing about mindfulness meditation, I suggest his page / book / app as a place to start – that’s how I did it anyways. 🙂

It is Sunday around noon, I have just returned from yoga practice and I am feeling amazing. The sun is shining, I am sipping on a fresh cup of coffee, and I have the whole afternoon to enjoy my process of typing my thoughts out loud. It seems so easy to be happy. This, however, is not always the case, right? Sometimes something bad happens and I need time to process it, or out of nowhere I start feeling anxious, even panicky. What now? How did that same girl that was feeling absolutely perfect is now feeling like shit, and sometimes without any apparent reason? This shifts in mood and emotional stages, especially the ones without an apparent reason, I took really REALLY hard, and by doing that, I’d even prolong the negative state.

I am an anxious person and I experience (all) emotions very deeply, I feel so much. It can be hard sometimes to deal with it all at once. A couple of months ago I started practicing mindfulness meditation, and I’ve been pretty steady with it. I still feel negative emotions, I still have thoughts I sometimes don’t even understand, and I still get very anxious. What is different now is that I have a tool – mindfulness helps me become aware of the sensations that happen in those moments. It helps me dissect them and see them for what they really are. I am still a beginner in mindfulness meditation so the best I can give you is my own experience and how it helps.

Using mindfulness for Anxiety Relief

When I’m experiencing sudden anxiety, I become more mindful of how my body feels, where do I feel it the most. Part by part I observe my breath, the pulsating in my hands, sweaty feeling on my palms and feet. I become aware of my thoughts. How they come on go. I don’t try to influence them, nor do I identify myself with them – realizing I am not my thoughts, I just let them come and go, and just like that, they are no longer here. By doing that, I don’t avoid completely the anxiety, but I don’t amplify it and it passes much sooner.

How to Overcome Cravings with Mindfulness

When I get sudden cravings for a glass of wine (or really anything with alcohol), I observe how this craving manifests physically. Realizing that the physical part of the craving (for me) is almost non-existing and that the craving is simply a product of my thought (the thought that is conditioned by the false idea that alcohol will calm me, unwind me, help me cope), I then shift my focus to becoming more aware of my emotional state, my thoughts. Usually, it means something else was on my mind, something was bothering me, or I needed some unwinding or something like that – I don’t just dismiss that emotion, I try to understand it, and then I cope in a healthy way (a cup of tea, stretching, a bubble bath, talking to someone, etc.).

Every body and every mind is different – these are just my experiences with it. If they spoke to you in some way, there are loads of apps with amazing guided mindfulness meditations. All you need is to just start and be patient with yourself – approach it with nothing but self-compassion 🙂

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5 Steps To Wake Up The Badass Inside You

5 steps I took to awaken the badass that was already in me

Being regularly undermined rarely doesn’t leave a mark on a person. It definitely did a number on me. Whether it was a family member telling me (from quite an early age) I needed a man to put me in place, because I was way too opinionated and assertive for a woman, or a guy at work daily trying to diminish my value by calling me ‘little girl’, instead of my name. After more than two decades of such regular undermining, I didn’t question them much – I believed them. I second-guessed my every single step. I would analyze my tone and what I was saying to not sound too assertive or commanding. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for longer than I care to admit because I thought that was normal – somebody had to put me in my place, remember? It is a vicious cycle; the more you let them, the more they put you down. It takes a lot of strength to fight it, break the cycle, but it is possible. And once you beat them, beat all that undermining, underestimating of yourself, you are freaking invincible.

Everyone has their own path and their own demons, so there is no unique approach. I can only share my journey and hope it will inspire you to awaken that badass inside of you who doesn’t take other people’s shit and that marches to the beat of their own drum. So without further ado, here’s what I did:

I reversed my approach

Instead of always considering what others said to be the truth and second-guessing my every single thought, I started second-guessing what others said and started believing in myself.

I started saying no

I was so lousy with boundaries, in a way that others could really push me around. Once I changed that, some people left and took their toxicity with them.

I reassured myself daily

I haven’t converted overnight to this confident superwoman. As a matter of fact, I still haven’t. Everyday I remind myself of my own worth, remind myself of how strong I am and how I only lose my strength by second-guessing it.

I started taking it as a compliment

Once I changed the way I interpreted the undermining comments, it was much easier to just shake them off. Before, a comment like ‘you are way to opinionated and assertive’ or ‘you should focus on starting to build a family, not a career’ used to feel so belittling (which it still is, don’t get me wrong). I now see those comments as personal applauds for how provocatively successful I am.

I became more vocal about supporting others on their own quests for greatness

Not that before I wasn’t cheering for others, I just wasn’t that upfront or vocal about it (and I am sorry for that). Loudly cheering and supporting others really is an awesome feeling, an amazing deed, and a catalyst for your own greatness.


And there you have it. Every little step altogether resulted in a great new energy of, to put it bluntly, being a BADASS. And badasses do amazing stuff.

If you enjoyed this read, check out 10 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Mental Well-being.

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How To Deal With Invasive and Nosy People

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5 Things You Are Missing Out On When You Stop Drinking

What To Expect When Quitting Alcohol For Good

As a self-proclaimed and newly formed advocate for sobriety, I’ve decided to make a list of the things I’ve noticed that I have missed out on ever since I ended my long-term and toxic relationship with alcohol (pun intended).

If you’re considering sobriety or you are in the early stages and need some additional tools to help you out, check out my post about 4 apps you can use to help you out in early sobriety.

If you ever wondered what would happen and what would you potentially be missing out on if you stopped drinking booze for good, this article is for you. So let’s dive right into it – here are the things I’ve been missing out on (but didn’t really miss) ever since I went alcohol-free:

Hangovers and hangxiety

As someone who struggles with anxiety and who used to have severe pain attacks, hangover anxiety was pretty awful. As much as I don’t miss the physical distress of having a hangover (headaches, nausea, dizziness, name it), the emotional one was even worse sometimes.

Feelings of embarrassment and shame the day after

I would remember some dumb stuff I’d said the night before and would just feel so embarrassed the day after. It was the little things – like I’d remember I really opened up to someone I barely knew or I’d be way to honest about my opinions with someone I didn’t care for sharing them.

Hanging out with people whose company you don’t actually enjoy

Okay, this one was a hard one to admit. I mean, that you’d hung out in bars with people whose company you didn’t even enjoy that much just for the couple of beers you’d drink together isn’t something you’d like to learn about yourself. But, nevertheless, it is the truth – and if you consider yourself a moderate drinker or you used to be one, there’s a good chance you have at least once experienced this (and that is okay – once we accept that part of us, we learn to avoid that behaviour and be better versions of ourselves).

Feeling bloated and swollen

I don’t know how common this one is, but it was a relief to get rid of it.

Restless sleep

Sure, after a couple of drinks I’d fall asleep (pass out) in a matter of seconds, but I usually wouldn’t sleep well for the rest of the night and would wake up tired, as if I slept half less than I actually did.


I could name some more, but these are the ones that first come to mind when I hear the words ‘you’re missing out’ or ‘then what do you do for fun if you don’t drink’. When I drank, I feared I would be missing out on the fun if I quit, but now I see that is not even close to the truth. Getting rid of the booze came down to just throwing out the bad stuff – and honestly it was the best decision I ever made.

What are the things you fear you’d be missing out on? Let me know in the comments – I’d love to address them in a future post. You’d be giving me great insight and I’d love to share my perspective. If you’re a fellow sobriety enthusiast or you’re sober curious (all of which are great shifts toward a better life), what are the things you’d add to my list? Let me know as well. I’d love to chat!

If you like this read, look into the 3 Things I Learned About Myself After Quitting Alcohol.

Until next time,

Common Unicorn

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3 Things I Learned About Myself After Quitting Alcohol

The Benefits of Giving Up Alcohol For Good

For some time I was playing with the idea of quitting drinking alcohol in my head, but the reasons not to were usually stronger (it seemed fun?!, a social thing, a celebratory thing, etc.). I did not like how booze made me feel neither while drinking (lazy, sleepy) nor after the fact (hangover anxiety, which was absolutely horrifying every time). Thinking about it now, I just don’t understand how I didn’t come to realise it sooner that it was doing me absolutely NO good and that I actually did not like it. But, when we normalise, even romanticise alcohol we usually do not see it for what it is.

Something changed for me at the beginning of 2021 (still not sure how or what exactly, but I am glad it did) and I decided to quit drinking for a while – you could say I was sober curious. After making that decision I drank twice more in January (which is nothing compared to my usual 2-3, okay 4 times a week) and both times even while still drinking I thought to myself what the ?! and why did I ever think this was enjoyable. Not to mention that the cripling hangover anxiety, or hangxiety, the day after is so not worth it. There was really no reason left for me to have that glass of wine now and then because I didn’t even want it anymore – that is when I made the radical choice not to drink anymore at all, and when the wonderful benefits of that decision came marching in my life.

During the month of sober curiosity and then a couple of months of sobriety, I can tell you at least 3 amazing things I’ve come to truly learn and appreciate about myself since going alcohol-free:

Noticing alcohol was only numbing me

If I was having fun drinking, it was because of the company and/or the activity and not the booze. Otherwise I was just numbing whatever needed to be numbed. Not wanting to drink anymore made me realise this and recognise it – now I attend activities and gatherings I want to, that are fun and exciting, and avoid the ones that are not (and only seemed like fun because of all the alcohol that numbed the truth).

Discovering I am a morning person

This may sound foolish, but for so long I thought I was not a morning person and hated waking up early, I was always tired and grumpy. Not drinking alcohol improved my sleep immensely. Being fresh and rested in the morning had an amazing effect on me – I developed an elaborate morning routine I am actually excited about and enjoy it. Now I can’t wait to wake up early – even on the weekends I am up before 8am, sipping my fresh cup of coffee by the window and just enjoying life.

Finding out my hidden passion for journaling and writing

This one is more of a rediscovery. Quitting alcohol has an amazing effect on ones introspection. I started to be more mindful and self-observing, allowing myself to reconsider my belief system, as well as my likes and dislikes. There was this surge of emotional revelations that needed an outlet and I somehow remembered myself as a kid – I LOVED to write. Journal, poems, short stories, you name it. I was always scribing something. And there you have it – the need to let all of these emotions out and my love for writing together created this blog.


I could name a dozen and more amazing things that happen when you decide your body and mind don’t deserve and don’t need to be abused by alcohol. But for now I will leave you with these 3, as they are the strongest and most captivating lessons I have experienced on this journey that has merely just began.

Related topic:

5 Things You Are Missing Out On When You Stop Drinking

If you’re considering sobriety or you are in the early stages and need some additional tools to help you out, check out my post about 4 apps you can use to help you out in early sobriety.

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