Self dates to take yourself on
First, there was self-love. In order to grow long-lasting and meaningful relationships and friendships, you should first learn how to love and spend quality time with yourself. Solo dates are a great way to reconnect with yourself, focus on all the aspects of self-care. Find the time to focus on your relationship with your inner self, no matter your relationship status! Learning how to have genuine fun, to be honest, compassionate and loving with yourself is crucial – this is after all the longest relationship you’ll ever have, so make it count.
It might feel weird in the beginning, but that is totally normal. After all, in a society focused on achievements and status, focusing on inner peace, self-kindness, and just spending some time with yourself, making yourself happy might seem even a little extravagant.
Hopefully, I have convinced you to take yourself out on a proper date, but now you’re wondering what are you supposed to do on a self date? Worry no more, here you can find a list of 10 beautiful activities you can choose for your next solo date! Before jumping to the list, there is only one rule you have to follow: chores don’t count as dates! So no, going grocery shopping is not a proper date. Just think of it as your usual (more than 1 person) date. Okay, now you’re ready!
Where to go on a solo date: 10 amazing ideas for your next self date
1. Check out a local museum or an art gallery
Have a solo date dedicated to admiring some art or learning something new about the past, science, architecture, etc. Choose something you’ll enjoy and just wonder around for a bit.
2. Take yourself out on a picnic
Prepare yourself a delish meal (maybe even multiple courses), something yummy to drink (infused water, a soda, maybe some juice), pack it all up and head to you fav park for a solo picnic date!
3. Buy yourself some flowers and head to your favourite cafe for a cup of coffee.
Who says you can’t buy flowers for yourself? Go to your local farmers market, buy yourself your favorite flowers and then head to that cute coffee place and enjoy yourself a cup of freshly brewed coffee or tea.
4. Grab that book you’ve been meaning to read and head to a quiet outdoors spot.
Grab a blanket as well so you can get extra comfy! Choose a spot where you’ll be able to read and head there for a couple of hours of undisturbed bliss.
5. Have a spiritual retreat day!
Dedicate your day to your spirituality. Meditate, practice some journaling (write down whatever feels right), do yoga, diffuse some essential oils, and simply be. Reconnect with yourself by staying present and grounded.
Related topic: How to develop a more spiritual yoga practice
6. Get crafty.
Do something creative on your next solo date. Try photography, make a photo album of your favorite memories, paint, try out a new recipe, try a DIY you’ve saved for later. Choose an activity you’ll enjoy, and dedicate your date to your creativity.
7. Check out your local theatre and go see a play.
Instead of the usual binge watching Netflix, for your next self date go and see a play at your local theatre.
8. Watch the sunrise from your favourite local spot.
I love waking up while the rest of my city is still sleeping and enjoying some time alone. Wake up before sunrise, make your drink of choice to go (coffee, tea, juice) and head out to your fav spot to watch the beautiful sunrise by yourself. Alternatively, if waking up that early seems like something impossible, do the same, but for the sunset.
9. Have a spa day.
Doesn’t have to be something fancy and expensive. You can have a spa day at home: light some candles, put on a face mask, enjoy yourself a bubble bath. Put on some relaxing music and diffuse some essential oils. It can be as simple as that.
10. Go on an active outdoor date.
Go for a bike ride and explore your city. Maybe go for a hike, or walk by the sea or river. Pick your favorite, get your body moving, and enjoy that quality solo time.
There you have it! You can go through the list and pick one for each time you take yourself on a date. Remember: the love and connection you have and nourish with yourself is the starting point for all the other relationships in your life. Set the foundations for them by taking care of yourself.
Let me know if you tried any of these and whether you liked them! Also, I’d love to hear about your own solo date ideas you’ve been to.
With love and compassion,